I’ve never liked inconveniencing people. I don’t want to be a bother. I could absolutely hate my meal and be in the middle of complaining about it, but when the waiter asks how it is, it’s inevitably “very good,” with the “very” elongated for maximum effect. I’ve gotten somewhat better at speaking up as I’ve gotten older. I think it’s because I’ve grown more irritable. Anyway, when I was 19 and a sophomore in college, I went to extremes to people-please. I was shy in college but usually made a friend or two in each class. I had three levels…